Leadership Part IV- Leaders help

Why did you leave your last job, may I ask?

It turns out that most people, according to statistics, leave jobs because of other people; usually their immediate managers or colleagues. The decision is often based on a few options: (1) I will just try to do my job and wait for other people to move on; (2) I will try to adapt myself to the situation and “tolerate” the situation; and (3) leaving the company.

The decision is usually difficult for a person especially if the person has been in the company for a while. I believe that if you were that person, then you would try option #1 and #2 for some time and see how they may help. After a period of time and if #1 and #2 options didn’t help, then you would take option #3, leaving the company. Sounds familiar, doesn’t it?

The question I’d like to ask you (and you can think hard on this) is what your managers (leaders) have done during this period of time before you leave? I’d share my own story with you first.

With good people in a team, people are often willing to stay in a team for longer. (Photo by Lisa Fotios on Pexels.com)

I still remember why I left my last job. That was my first job after finishing my PhD and I chose to work for a public airport authority. I was confident and sailed through interviews without hiccups; I was proud. Quickly after starting my role at the airport, I then realised that I had the highest academic qualification in the whole organisation (not surprising). I was humble, but the management was not.

Leaders in that organisation “tried their best” to show me why they were “better” than I was, although I had a PhD in air transport. The funny thing was that I was not a ‘threat’ to senior managers, because it took years to move up ‘ranks’ and in the public servant system when I was there, there was no chance for me to jump ranks. I was not happy in the first month or two at my job. I liked what I did but I didn’t like the way senior managers treated me. Colleagues were wonderful and supportive, by the way.

So, what did the top leader do? He did nothing and chose to ‘side’ with my manager because my manager was his favorite. That’s OK. I started looking for opportunities 6 months into my job. I’ve tried option #1 and #2. They didn’t improve my situation, so I tried #3, leaving the company.

A happy employee always has good performance.

Politics or ‘favoritism’ happen in offices and that’s probably inevitable; just human nature. What good leaders do is to sooth the frictions in the company and try to accommodate as many people as possible because good leaders know that talents can always find other opportunities and leave the company. This is often a loss to the company than a gain. It costs a lot more to recruit new employees than retaining current employees.

Good leaders help and don’t side with certain groups of people, otherwise office politics will grow and harm people and the company. Junior staff can find themselves powerless when face the senior management. When conflicts happen between junior staff and management, what leaders can do? Many leaders would just ‘delegate’ and let the management team handle these conflicts. This often leads to staff turnover, because the leadership is not nice. The power of nice cannot be ignored in modern corporates.

I remember I told this to one friend in Hong Kong before. He told me: “This is not going to work. If you are nice to people, then people think you are weak and not competitive.” Well, we certainly remember who were mean to us before, but we also remember who were nice to us before. I’m pretty sure that you don’t want to help those people who were mean to you before, but more than happy to help those people who were nice to you. Who said that being nice is useless?

I found this little book when I was searching for something in the library. Believe or not, it’s a good read! Being nice is powerful.

Good leaders listen and work with the team. The team doesn’t work for the leader, but for the company. So, are you considering changing your job because of people and because of lack of leadership in helping staff? If so, it may be a good move to leave the company and find a better job with leadership. It’s hard (if not impossible) to change other people, but it’s easier to change yourself for good and grow yourself.

Learn the lesson you’ve been through in your career and be a good leader when you have a chance. Work with your staff, so they work together and grow together for the company. Your staff don’t work for you (remember this!), although they may call you ‘boss’. Your staff work for the company and for the good of the company. If you think they work for you, then your staff will leave sooner or later.

Leaders help and listen; that’s good leadership we want.

Dr. C. Richard Wu @ REEAConsulting.com

Enjoy reading this post? Why not buy me a cup of coffee!

Secure PayPal/credit/debit card payments. ^_^


Try our coaching program and upgrade your life!

Visit our e-Store and sign up!

Exercise and Get Smarter!
Many of you know that I am a professor at UNSW Sydney. Many of you also know that I'm an Ironman tri-athlete. I finished …
Spending Time Alone After Dark
I always enjoy reading before bedtime. It can be 10 minutes and sometimes stretches to more than an hour. If my wife goes to …
How to Land a Dream Job?
I occasionally help clients looking for a job or switching to a new position in my coaching services. I don't prioritise this service in …
Coaching your kids- Part IX: Enjoy the moment and have fun!
My children did quite some extra curriculum activities when they were in primary and junior high school. Since they finished school days at 3 …
Small Win & Celebrate
All project managers know that the success of a big project is a compilation of small wins; when small tasks are done on time …
2022 Rewind and Reflection
The start of 2022 was surprisingly busy for me, personally and professionally. Well, there is still time to write my '2022 rewind and reflection' …
Learn to Coach Yourself
Happy New Year, my readers! ^_^ I met a few potential coaching clients online or in-person last year. Some thought that they could coach …
Coaching your kids- Part VIII: Learn to let go and move on
My daughter has been interested in dancing when she was very young. Still, at the age of 16, she dances a lot and enjoys …
Why I still like in-person communication
One thing we have all got more used to since COVID is the convenience of communication through the Internet. We use all sorts of …
Procrastination and How to Stop it with Science
Do you procrastinate? In my life coaching experience, the #1 top reason why people cannot perform is not about capability. You can easily improve …

Subscribe to our blog and enjoy! ^_<

Leave a Reply

Up ↑

%d bloggers like this: