How to Enjoy the Second Half of Your Life Game- Sunset is the beginning of sunrise

How to Enjoy the Second Half of Your Life Game- Sunset is the beginning of sunrise

The most common myth I've come across in life coaching is that: "it's too late to change my life". Well, this is almost always not true! I have seen some clients and surely, potential clients who 'devote' their lives to someone else. It's often their children, their husband/wife, caring their parents, or simply their jobs [...]

Leadership, Part III- You are born to be a leader

Leadership, Part III- You are born to be a leader

I used to believe that some people are born to be leaders and most people are meant to be followers. At least, that's what I have seen around me and perhaps, in the society as a whole. However, there are two issues with this view. First, it's true that most people are 'followers'. Humans are [...]

Coach Yourself to Lose Weight

Coach Yourself to Lose Weight

I officially launched my online store yesterday! It's a big milestone in my life and I'm proud of it. 3 Years ago, I realised that I truely loved teaching, education and coaching people. On top of that, I also enjoy doing research. So, indeed, I'm doing the job that I have passion with right now. [...]

Compromise and Acceptance- Be realistic about your life

Compromise and Acceptance- Be realistic about your life

The most interesting question I've come across in my career as a world top 50 university professor was asked by a university freshman (first-year student). At the end of my lecture, he approached me and asked me: "Which job in the aviation industry has the highest pay?" Hmmm… I was surprised! Then I told the [...]

Coaching your kids- Part V: Self-driven kids

Coaching your kids- Part V: Self-driven kids

Due to the COVID-19 pandemic, our university has switched to online teaching and learning since late March 2020. Many people say that the young generation, in particular those who was born after 2000, grew up with digital gadgets and they have adapted to the digital life, almost naturally. If that's the case, then I'd think [...]

Coaching your kids- Part IV: Discipline

Coaching your kids- Part IV: Discipline

Key takeaways: Discipline is essential for self-management;Disciplines are different from habits;Following disciplines requires training;After kids have grown up, they can self-discipline and achieve goals with ease. Based on my years of coaching experience, many issues we see in our lives can all boil down to one essential character: discipline. For adults, we follow disciplines that [...]

Stop drifting in you life and career- choose for yourself or for others? (Part IV)

Stop drifting in you life and career- choose for yourself or for others? (Part IV)

Key takeaways: Choose the job you enjoy the most; not the job that pays you the most;You can stop drifting if you choose to do so. I have a friend whom I have known since year 8; a long-time friend. When he was to make a decision to do his Bachelor’s degree, he chose textile [...]

指導自己的孩子-(三)耐心

指導自己的孩子-(三)耐心

重點提示:-耐心是成功的最基本要素之一;-耐心需要長時間的培養和指導;-人生中大多數的事情都需要時間來發展;-幸運的是,我們有畢生的精力可以耐心地從事很多事情。 在七月的最後一個學校放假期間,我帶兒子到附近釣魚。那是他第一次嘗試釣魚,所以這次郊遊充滿了樂趣,當然還有挫敗感。我不是釣魚的狂熱者,但是我過去曾經和我的弟弟(他是個狂熱者)一起去釣過幾次魚;主要還是為了享受安靜地坐在那裡,並享受美好的戶外生活。說真的,釣魚還挺有趣的。 經過一段時間的努力之後,我的兒子終於將第一個誘餌投到河裡,並且可以讓釣魚竿和漁線輪正常工作。我兒子在河裡投下魚餌幾分鐘後轉頭跟我說:「爸爸,這裡沒有魚吔?」然後我告訴他:「兒子,釣魚的目的通常不只是要釣大魚,而是要享受戶外和美景。您需要耐心等待魚來吃誘餌。坐下來,放鬆身心,欣賞雪梨海港的景色吧! 」 釣魚除了技巧,更需要的是耐心。 耐心是成功的最重要元素之一,而耐心是需要時間培養的。從字面上看,「耐心」,根據我的詞典是指:「有能力接受,或容忍延遲,問題或痛苦而不會變得煩惱或焦慮」。這裡有兩個關鍵字須要我們的注意:「延遲」和「煩惱」。 在我為大學和專業培訓頂尖研究人員的職業生涯中,許多人(如果不是所有人的話!)在開始培訓時,就一直在尋找「快速解決方案」。然而很快地,大部份的人都會發現「快速解決方案」其實並不一定會存在。即使它們存在,它們也只能「修補」問題,幾乎不能真正解決客戶和學生面臨的根本問題或挑戰。 考試成績要好也需要耐心學習 (照片為作者在Ikea Rhodes所攝,海報版權仍屬Ikea Australia) 多年以來,我看到學生和專業人士開始變得「不耐煩」。我的理論是,人們會被Google和互聯網「寵壞」。當我給學生分配作業後,他們通常會做的第一件事就是去谷歌搜索,並嘗試尋找解決方案。實際上,借助谷歌,我給大學生分配的許多作業可以更快地完成。我的理論是,隨著時間的流逝,當學生無法在網路上找到答案時,會開始變得不耐煩。通常當我給學生沒有固定答案的作業之後,學生便開始抱怨他們需要花費多少時間在該項目上,而且他們沒有時間! 我的一些客戶以前認為只要做了幾回訓練,便可以很快地改善他們的職業生涯,並進級到「成功人仕」之列。是的,這取決於訓練的目的。如果教練是關於簡報技巧的話,那麼我可以通過幾次實作練習,便可以輔導我的客戶成為出色的演講者。但是,如果我的客戶打算建立一個成功的線上網路事業的話,那就需要一些時間了;更需要的是耐心。 要多久時間牡蠣才能牢牢附著在海邊的石頭上? 我記得我的一位朋友去年告訴我,他不再寫博客了,因為:「誰有時間閱讀你的博客文章?」相反的,他開始製作簡短的視頻。這我可以明白,這幾乎與我在大學和行業內的教練客戶中看到的相吻合:「什麼事情都必須快,結果也必須快速取得!」嗯…人生中,大部份的事情都没有想像中的快與單純。 據統計,在過去30年的時間裡,退休投資基金的平均年收益率約為5-7%。有趣的是,道瓊工業指數同期的平均年收益率約為10%!這意味著,如果您三十年前投入$10萬美元購買整個道瓊工業指數(通過指數基金),並將其留到30年後的話,那麼您什麼也不做,就可以擁有$170萬美元;除了耐心,真的什麼都不須要!順便說一下,這就是巴菲特的致富之道,你有注意到吧? 巴菲特守則#7: 要堅持,有耐心(等待投資翻倍!) 指導孩子們有耐心是給孩子們最好的人生禮物。為此,我建議你與你的孩子去釣魚,因為它充滿了成功的精髓:大量的準備工作,長久經驗的積累,挫敗感超多,超有趣,也須要超人的耐心!時間是一個強大的工具;如果您可以耐心等待的話,那麼您已經擁有了宇宙中最強大的工具之一,可以為自己打造成功的人生。太神奇了,你說是嗎? 吳政隆博士@ REEAConsulting.com 想要升級你的人生嗎?立刻參加瑞亞菁英指導服務!